Show Honor on Mother’s Day…Even When It’s Hard (Jen Wilkin)
Mother’s Day is fast approaching, sending children of all ages scurrying to the greeting card aisle to find just the right sentiment to send to Mom. This celebration touches all of us. Though we may not all be mothers, all of us have a mother. And for the people of God who delight in the commands of God, Mother’s Day holds a special meaning, going far beyond a mere calendar date that can only be traced back 100 years. Honoring our parents is an ancient and beautiful command given to us for God’s glory and our good.
The fifth of the Ten Commandments speaks of showing honor to our parents. Often repeated by parents to young children, I wonder how frequently we remind ourselves of the command’s relevance to us as adult children. Some would say that this command is actually directed primarily at adult children because it is found in a list of other commands so clearly addressed to adults: “Adult children, honor your aging parents whose days have been long upon the land, that your days might be long as well.”
Yet, honoring our parents would be a simple matter if all parents were worthy of honor, making a command to do so almost unnecessary. But for some of us, that aisle of Mother’s Day cards, awash with loving sentiment, can feel like an annual gauntlet we must run. Yes, all of us have a mother, but not all of us have a mother who is easy to honor.
So how can we think beyond the card aisle to fulfill the fifth command so far as we are able?
Maybe your mother didn’t do everything right. If you’re a parent yourself, you have probably learned already to extend the gracious proposition that she did the best she could. Show honor to your mother by telling her two of your favorite memories of her from your childhood. If you have children of your own, repeat those stories to them. And think hard about what other stories they need to hear. Giving your children the gift of relationship with a grandmother un-weighted by the baggage of your own childhood can be a way to show honor. Sometimes we honor our mothers by demonstrating forgiveness in what we leave unsaid.
Maybe the mother who raised you was a mother in name only. Maybe she caused or allowed harm to you. Look to show honor where you can. Who mothered you? A teacher? An aunt? A grandmother? A stepmother? Express your gratitude to the woman or women in your life who looked beyond the boundaries of biology to demonstrate motherly love in tangible ways. Make a donation to a cause that helps women to mother and children to be parented.
Maybe your mother is no longer living. Show honor to her memory by making a recipe she made, by reviving a family tradition she started or by making a donation to a charity in her name. Maybe you know someone whose mother recently passed away. Ask them what they miss most about her. Send a note to acknowledge their sorrow. Maybe you know someone aching to be a mother. Maybe you know a mother whose child will never wish her a happy Mother’s Day. Reach out to them with empathy and comfort.
Maybe your mother was the kind for whom the entire greeting card aisle was written. By all means, take your time finding the perfect card and writing the perfect sentiment. But also feel the weight of your privilege. To be raised by a mother who consistently places the needs of others above her own is no common thing. Show honor by being that kind of parent to your own children. But don’t stop there. Turn your eyes to those you know who are physically, emotionally or spiritually motherless and be a mother (or father) to them according to their need.
All of us are sons and daughters. This Mother’s Day, may we think beyond the card aisle to outdo one another in showing honor, each of us according to the grace we have been given.
This post was taken from thevillagechurch.net